I guess most of you now have already heard this quote. It’s a famous quote that I don’t know who first said it, but I heard it from the motivational speaker Jim Rohn. Darren Hardy also state in his book The compound effect: “The people you habitually associate with determine as much as 95 percent of your success or failure in life”. If you spend some time thinking about it you’ll realise that that’s true.
I’ve seen it in my own life. If one of your girlfriends is negative, she’s pointing out the negatives so you’ll start focusing on the negatives. Eventually you’ll become negative yourself. If your friends drink, you’ll start drinking more. If your friends eat junk food they’ll drag you into eating non-nutritious food. You’ll be influenced pretty soon. It’s a matter of time. Ever noticed how your friends talk and you suddenly start to pick up on their way of speaking? It’s the same thing. No matter how strong you think you are people around you will influence you. It’s very likely that their habits will become yours. The people you spend the most time with shape who you are. They determine what conversations dominate your attention. They affect to which attitudes and behaviours you are regularly exposed. Eventually you start to think like they think and behave like they behave.
The most dumb things I’ve done in my life I’ve done them when I was influenced by other people. Did they have bad habits? I would form them too. That way I was likeable. I was a part of the tribe. I felt cool. That’s how I started forming habits I thought I would never have. Smoking? Me? No way. Well all my friends were smoking. I had to try. Who do you wanna be in this life? Have you thought about it or are you going with the flow? You’re definitely not gonna be successful in life if you keep on going with the flow. Be careful who you hang around with. Negativity is contagious. Positivity also is. The choice is yours.
Tony Robbins has an amazing quote. “You’re a direct correlation of the expectations of your peers”. If you’re around people who don’t expect much, your life is probably not gonna be much. If you’re around people who expect greatness, you’re gonna have to step up into that greatness if you want to stay hanging around with them. Don’t underestimate how much someone can influence you. Friends, family, partner they’re all an influence to you. The most time you spend with them the most possible is to become like them. Try to be around people who bring out the best in you. Positive people, who will push you further to be a better version of yourself. People who will motivate you to take action on your future. People who will call you out on your bul****t and won’t engage to them with you. Also keep in mind that some people can also give you the wrong advice. For example, family members. They might truly want the best for you, but take it with a grain of salt cause even if they do, they might not guide you to the right path for your life.
So, who do you wanna be? Look at the people around you. The people you hang around the most. Are they who you aspire to be? And if they don’t do they seem to want greatness in life? Do they try to grow themselves? Do they have good habits? Do they want to form better habits? Take a look at your partner. Notice the beliefs of your own family. Take a close look at all of them cause they are a great influence to you. Who do you want to be? Do they help you be that amazing version of yourself that you aspire to be or they drag you down? Take some time for yourself and think carefully of your actions and your daily habits. Are they yours or are you influenced by someone else? Who do you wanna be? Who do you wanna become?
The life is yours and only yours. You are the one who will have to deal with the consequences of your decisions. Choose wisely. I know you can do it. I believe in you. You can achieve anything you want in life, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You can become the best version of yourself. Start now. Grow yourself. Form better habits. One at a a time. When one is accomplished, move to next one. Small tiny tweaks here and there. That’s how you change who you are. Be brave. Be bold. You got this.
A Better Me. 